Letter to Our Future Son-In-Law: Welcome To Our Family

Welcome your daughter’s fiancé to the family with a personalized “Letter to Our Future Son-In-Law.” This is the best of times to begin to forge strong family bonds.

A minister shared his feelings about the times a young man approached him and his wife and said, “I would like to marry your daughter.”

They had 2 daughters, and each time it was the same inner struggle for him. Here’s what he said:

As parents, we wanted our daughters to be happy, and have a chance to begin a home, because that’s the natural progression of life. But each time, I was thinking, “This is the precious daughter born to us. We sheltered her, dried her tears, comforted her when she was hurt, bandaged her skinned knees, changed diapers, nursed her through sickness. Invested in her happiness with all our hearts and souls. She’s blood of our blood, heart of our hearts. And now, you, young man, think you can come to me and [in essence] say, “I want her. Give her to me.” Just like that? We’re supposed to let her step into an unknown situation without a whimper from us? Without hesitation? Without doing a background check on you that defies all background checks? “Don’t doubt it, young man, we need time with this. We need to seek God’s will and if He hasn’t already revealed His wishes in this, you, my boy, are going to have to wait for a yes until God has come very, very clearly to us and said this is who is meant to be in our daughter’s future.”

A minister and a father

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Letter to My Future Son-In-Law

The minister’s talk reminded me of a letter my sister gave to her future-sons-in-law when her daughters got married. My throat lumped up when I read it. If it was poignant and touching to me, and I don’t have any SonILs, how much could it inspire a young fiancé?

And it will surely have an impact on future family relationships. If he knows how much his wife’s mother cares about their marriage, the whole family dynamic could be affected. And we all know that a mother-in-law needs to be ahead of the game when it comes to promoting the infamous MIL syndrome thing!

They all have really good thoughts your new son will want to think about. As Mark Merrill says, you have your future son-in-law’s attention in the days before their wedding as at no other time in his life.

Make use of the opportunity!

On Your Wedding Day

Use these notes for fuel for your own letter:

I did not choose you for my daughter, but I am glad she chose you. You were meant to be together. 

________ is the most precious thing in my life. She is not only my daughter, she is now your beautiful wife. I am so happy that she has found someone like you. To love her, to cherish her, someone she can turn to. All I want is for her to be happy.

__________, I am proud to call you my son. You are now part of our family. Be blessed with happiness, be blessed with love. With the joining of two beautiful hearts, you have now become one.

With love, your Mother-In-Law.

What to share in a letter you write to a future Son-In-Law:

Here’s a few points you may want to think about sharing in this letter-from-your-heart…

• Tell him how much you love him already.
• Share your confidence in his ability to make your daughter happy.
• Your confidence that God brought them together.
• He will be the rock your daughter can turn to.
• There will be “sickness and sorrow, good and bad” and you know God will carry them, together.
• Share memories from her baby/child days.
• Share your daughter’s best traits… “She will rescue every lost puppy she sees.”
• Portray the loving relationship with him you see in your family’s future.

Personalized “Letter to Our Future Son-In-Law”

We have more choices of the Digital Letter To A Future Son-In-Law in our shop, with more choices than our free version. You can choose to personalize it with your future son-in-law’s name, and sign it with your own name. Or perhaps you’ll wish to give it as a gift from both you and your husband. The letter is available in four different font styles, and two different sizes.

In addition, we have an Inspirational Letter to Your Future Son-In-Law, with the same choices of fonts and personalization.

Not only can you add names, you can also request changes in wording to make it completely yours. (Within the size limits you choose between 5″x7″ card size or 8″x10″ frame size.)

Then frame it and give as a little pre-wedding gift. He will hang it on the wall to read again and again…

And know each time how much you love him and have confidence in him.