7 Tips to Help Overcome Jealousy Towards Women Peers
Why do we need 7 Tips to Help Overcome Jealousy towards Women Peers? Because jealousy is an all-consuming fire that destroys beautiful relationships and worse yet, prevents sister-friendships from happening at all.
So you’ve scored an outfit you truly are pleased to wear. It’s hanging in the closet, waiting for that special event. The event finally arrives and as you dress, anticipation gives your face an added glow. That glow lasts all the way to the event, through the first greet and meets, through the hugs and “good-to-see-you!” screams. Then, the event has a moment where you notice “that look” from someone. You feel a chill in the air. The warmth of reunion is suddenly squelched by a snow shower of confusing feelings.
Maybe you’re the one that shovels the ice chips over the party. Perhaps it’s one of your women peers whose scored a special look, and you feel underdressed and under-loved. So you give everyone the silent treatment while you deal with your emotions. The others steer clear of your cold shoulders, and your feelings are multiplied and verified.
Have you been there? I have. Thankfully, not so much lately, because I have been around for awhile. But it hits me, too. I don’t like that nothing fits me like it used to, and when a friend comes around who just lost the pounds I wish I’d never gained, I struggle. And then desperately turn my thoughts to the
7 Tips God has given to help overcome jealousy to women peers.
God hates this type of jealousy, and He leads with examples of healing love in the Bible. He has given us scripture to guide us to overcoming envy.
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14 But if you harbor bitter envy
and selfish ambition in your hearts,
do not boast about it or deny the truth.
15 Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven
but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic.
16 For where you have envy and selfish ambition,
there you find disorder and every evil practice.
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How can we play fireman in the midst of a hot flash of jealousy? Practice.
Practice these 7 steps back to safety…
1. Focus on God’s Love for You
As I mentioned earlier, jealousy makes us feel unloved and unappreciated. Acknowledge this in your heart, then focus on the fact you know if you are a Christian: God loves you. He loves everyone. God loves the friend you’re jealous of, and He loves you, exactly the same. In His eyes, you are equal. Period.
If you can truly believe that God sees everyone equally, your feelings are freed. You can look for nice outfits, but whether you look nice or not doesn’t make any difference to God. He loves you. You. Whether you look good or not. If you’re wearing tennis shoes when all the others have cute boots or high heels, He loves you. Wrap that around yourself and glory in it.
2. Believe in Your Identity in Christ
Remind yourself of the moments when you felt one with Christ. You felt immersed in His love, and completely satisfied. You didn’t need nice things or a new coat in that moment. All you felt was love and peace. And you knew, you just knew, that Jesus saw you as you were, and He accepted and forgave you. And you were perfect.
You are still perfect to Him in your moments of jealousy. Because that’s not who or what you are now. You are saved, forgiven, and what you don’t embrace will not be held against you.
3. Know That God Wants You to be Unique
God doesn’t want a Church full of clones wearing the same outfit and combing their hair the same way. He made you to be you. Get comfortable with that.
Be true to your uniqueness. Don’t wear it like a cloak of defense, trying to impress others with your individuality. Trying extra hard to stand out as your own person. But discover who you are, in Christ, as mentioned in the paragraphs above. Understand the spirit that makes you one of His unique beings, then keep that spirit first in your heart. Everywhere you go.
4. Keep a Thankful Journal
In this post we talked about thankfulness and gratitude. Naming our “1000 Gifts” daily.
If our hearts are deeply thankful for what God has given us there is hardly room for jealousy or envy. If the fires are getting too frequent or too hot, get back into the habit of journaling the things you’re thankful for.
5. Celebrate God’s Blessings to Others
Are you thankful your friend knows how to dress with such talent? That she always finds cute shoes and the best sweaters? And that she has the talent to decorate her home like a magazine spread?
You have to, you know. Find that place of recognition of God’s blessings to others, and celebrate them. Make a special effort to tell your friend you appreciate her talents, without an ounce of envy in your voice. If you can do that, you’re half way to victory.
Then fill your heart with love and appreciation for others. You know the secret to a heart bursting with love, don’t you? It’s praying for them. Get down on your knees and thank God for your friend, her talents, and all the things God has given her. Then ask God to bless her even more. And mean it.
6. Give, to Overcome Jealousy Towards Women.
If your heart is filled with thankfulness to God, you want to share.
When your heart is empty of thankfulness and filling with bitterness, give. Make a point of giving every. single. day. And then give some more. Until you don’t resent the time it takes to plan and execute that giving. Until your first thought every morning is what you plan to give that day.
Your friend comes to Church wearing the coat you wanted? Give her the scarf that goes perfectly with that coat.
Another friend painted her living room the new color you love? Give her a wall plaque to accent it.
7. Think of Jealousy as Detoxification
All these words make it seem as if jealousy is a part of every day life. I hope it isn’t, but even if it’s occasional it’s not a fun spirit to have. But don’t let these disgusting feelings defeat you.
Look at undesirable feelings as a way to detoxify yourself of evil. You feel off. You don’t feel as close to God as you did. Realize there has to be a reason for that. Recognize the spirit of jealousy or envy or whatever is causing your stress. Then begin a detoxification program.
Don’t welcome the feelings of course, but if they come, make them a tool to remind you to intensify your search for renewal in Christ. Have a personal revival in your favorite recliner with your Bible and a cup of coffee.
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